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  1. Christopher Warnock
    April 14, 2015 @ 6:54 pm

    Wow! I’m blown away!

  2. Kathleen
    April 14, 2015 @ 8:05 pm

    The “Great Okayness.” I love that! Sometimes I feel I should be happier, more blissful, etc. But what I realized was that while I am not yet free of suffering, I’m blessedly free of the INTENSE suffering I was in. And remembering that, in itself, is a sort of bliss!

    And thanks for the reminder to do my own homework, too. Although I had this insight recently and have been practicing it, it is easy for me to forget an insight and drop the practice. But persistence is what really brings results.

    All love,


    • Fred Davis
      April 15, 2015 @ 8:58 am

      Only Kathleen thinks she should be happier, more blissful, etc. Awakeness is always fine with whatever is present. Fred used to feel this way a lot, too. 🙂


  3. Beau Bellenfant
    April 14, 2015 @ 11:13 pm

    And one can be caught with the thought: “D’oh, but I missed that last moment when I was deluded and forgot to let the love and truth in! Goddamit!” But of course, that very moment has the truth and the love in it. It’s enough to know it Now. Open those doors of reception, for light is always knocking, even when the house is a mess.

  4. Mike
    April 16, 2015 @ 8:18 pm

    Funny, I just started using “it’s okay (Mikeness)”. It’s an interrupter to the cringing critical reaction that i’ve had to noticing that i wasn’t noticing (like Beau said, “Goddamit”). There’s trying to deal with the object of my distraction (the sense that it has to be figured out so it doesn’t have a hold on me, as opposed to instantly dropping it); there’s the goddamit that then interlaced because i couldn’t not either try to “think it out” – or be in self-recrimination (i now call this The Recriminator); now i add “it’s okak” (that i self-recriminated) because i want to break that vicious cycle that i was left in of criticizing myself for criticizing myself. I hadn’t done that before because I thought that was dualistic, taking sides with okay instead of practicing pure noticing. Now though i use the parenting your inner child suggestion and say okay to them all: the object of my distraction; that i “chose” to be distracted; that i criticized myself; that i couldn’t get out of this cycle. Who knew I would come around to just adding a comforting voice of “it’s okay”!

    And receiving that ok from “another self” i’ve projected my reassurance onto – that’s okay too! And so I am so greatfull to my Fred-self that reflects to Me the Great Okayness. And Kathleen and Beau thank you so much for reflecting it and echoing it too.

    • Fred Davis
      April 20, 2015 @ 12:26 pm

      Thank you, Mike, I appreciate this very much. It’s confusing until it isn’t. Trying to “think” nondually is a trap, although it’s a trap we probably all have to go through until we don’t. Allowing what’s already arising anyway (saying okay) is very helpful, even skillful. Enlightenment always boils down to one thing: “Am I awake to THIS arising?” If I’m resisting it, the answer is no. If I’m allowing to whatever degree I can allow, I’m staying in the right groove.

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