1. martina mcentee
    October 6, 2014 @ 6:40 am

    today here in Coventry England the weather has turned
    it’s wet windy and colder but your piece of writing on relationships warms the heart
    Thank you


  2. David Johnson
    October 6, 2014 @ 11:59 am

    Thank you, Fred. Your words are particularly timely.


  3. irv mandelberg
    October 6, 2014 @ 1:24 pm

    GOD YOU ARE GOOD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    • Fred Davis
      October 6, 2014 @ 1:56 pm

      Thank you, Irv! Good to hear from you.


  4. Carol Kelly
    October 6, 2014 @ 3:36 pm

    Fred, thank you for sharing this beautiful story. My relationship with my late husband was very much like yours with Betsy. So I am carrying on with it now, and it’s validating to know that it’s still intact without his physical presence. He’s here, though.


    • Fred Davis
      October 6, 2014 @ 4:23 pm

      Thank you, Carol. I assure you, he is here.


  5. Fred Davis
    October 6, 2014 @ 4:26 pm

    >it has to be kept a secret

    >you’re taking the lid off the kettle.

    Is this true, or is it a story? 😉


    • Gary Falk
      October 7, 2014 @ 2:11 pm

      Hey Fred, don’t listen to that guy (or gal)! I love your personal stuff. In fact, let’s have a lot more of it.


      • Fred Davis
        October 7, 2014 @ 3:02 pm

        Hey, Gary! Thanks so much, and I’m glad to have you aboard!


  6. Cheryl Shortridge
    October 6, 2014 @ 4:40 pm

    Thank you for this Fred. I am having easier times with my husband (who is super smart & sweet but not Awake), my children, parents & fellow employees. it is for this exact reason that you state too. There are no expectations coming from this space. And if I catch myself slipping & expecting instead of accepting it is easy for me to accept mySELF for these experiences. When I`m not beating myself up I`m not beating others up either!!


  7. Fred Davis
    October 6, 2014 @ 4:42 pm

    Hi, Cheryl! Terrific! Thank you!


  8. Robbin Hayman
    October 6, 2014 @ 6:38 pm

    This non-secret raises the tide for all boats. Talk about global warming! Deep gratitude and joy, that I can experience this.


  9. Fred Davis
    October 6, 2014 @ 6:39 pm

    Love to both you and Sussey!


  10. Patti
    October 6, 2014 @ 7:09 pm

    Hi Fred,

    I found you about eight months ago when I was at a bit of a crossroads in my recovery and wanted something in addition to the Steps. I have always been “spiritual,” (whatever that means 😉 ) but upon getting (and so far finally staying sober) found myself more and more drawn to non-duality teachings. And yours, in particular, resonated strongly with me, still does. Maybe the shared background in recovery, maybe much more. What compelled me to write today is that I needed this post more than you will ever know. I have been trying for months now to make a relationship work that is not working, for many reasons. “I” know this on every level but my ego was putting up quite the fight.This is a very tough area for me. When I read your post this morning, it shot right through me as “TRUTH” like most of your work does. There really are three choices: try to fix it, surrender to what IS, or let it go. I knew that, somewhere, but you reminded me and I dearly needed that reminder. I also needed to read about you and the lovely Betsy. I want that sort of relationship one day, and it is wonderful to know it is not only possible, it exists for REAL, or what’s passing as real these days 😉 Thank you, thank you, thank you. You have helped me more than I can express. Patti


    • Fred Davis
      October 6, 2014 @ 8:12 pm

      Hey, Patti! Thank you so much for your note. When you “hang yourself out there in public” as this post did, it’s wonderful to get an encouraging response.

      Good luck, and you’ll be fine. All is well.

      In joy,



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