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  1. Gary Falk
    November 14, 2014 @ 7:35 am

    YAY, Fred!!

    You really took a beating yesterday on Facebook, but now, this I’m sure, will go a LONG way towards
    helping to clear up, at least a little, that ugly, semi-hysterical mess.

    Anyway, really happy and grateful you posted this totally clear-eyed response and have now, effectively put
    this whole thing in perspective and above all, in the PAST, where hopefully it will soon REMAIN.

    All love and joy,


    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 9:20 am

      Thank you, Gary. I’m so grateful for your friendship and support. All is well.


      NOTE TO READERS: I’m only posting supportive comments in regard to the Glass Houses post. I’m spamming the rest. My detractors have plenty of forums on which they can speak their minds. It seems only fair that Betsy and I should have one of our own.”

      “Let us live happily then, not hating those who hate us!
      Among men who hate us let us dwell free from hatred!”
      Buddha, Dhammapada, 15:197

      “Father,forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
      Jesus Christ, New Testament, Luke 23:24

    • Jen
      November 14, 2014 @ 8:26 pm

      I am a friend of Gary’s and he shared a link to your article with me. I wanted to share with you what I shared with him, which is a means to process the critical comments. Maybe you will find it helpful. I recently heard a teaching on the topic of the four boundless states. In particular, equanimity comes to mind; it was presented to me as the foundation upon which the other states exist. Of course people were hurt by your actions, but it doesn’t mean you must suffer for eternity because of it. Best wishes to you. (This link describes the four boundless states and mirrors the presentation I was fortunate to attend recently.)

      • Fred Davis
        November 14, 2014 @ 8:53 pm

        Thank you, Jen! I know a lot of us will benefit from this. As I say,

        In peace anyway,

        • Jen
          November 15, 2014 @ 9:26 am

          You are welcome, Fred. I doubt the information is new to you, but it has been immensely helpful to me in coping with the pain and grief of life.

          • Fred Davis
            November 15, 2014 @ 10:22 am

            I am always happy to hear wisdom from any source who has it. Sometimes it’s news, sometimes it’s a reminder. Both are critical to being awake to the present arising.

  2. Karen Lynn
    November 14, 2014 @ 10:46 am

    Fred, I am a big fan of your books and frequent the forum as well. What you have done today is one more lesson for us all on love, humbleness and forgiveness. I am sorry that you had write this, yet I see it was necessary. I admire your strength and remain your grateful fan and reader, with no less respect and love for you today than yesterday. Namaste my friend.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 10:48 am

      Thank you so much, Karen. This is so helpful.

      In peace,

  3. Tom
    November 14, 2014 @ 11:06 am

    Fred, I had a Skype session with you about a year ago. I’m a fan of your books, website and videos and I will continue to be. I am planning to do a follow up session with you in the near future. Thank you for your honesty. My very best wishes to you.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 12:08 pm

      Thank you very much, Tom. Your support is so important to both Betsy and myself.

      In peace,

  4. Judy Cohen
    November 14, 2014 @ 11:31 am

    thank you for writing Fred. odd as this may sound, I’m happy this opportunity presented itself, both for you, your entire family, and for the often-unhappy-and-full-of-nonsense community that claims an interest or understanding of nonduality. The glee in the witch hunt has been quite something to watch. I’m glad to hear that you and family are doing ok, that alone says much about how much you have learned on this path, and I’m sending my best to you all.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 12:11 pm

      Thank you, thank you, Judy. Yeah, it’s been pretty amazing to see. Just so you and others can know, I’m getting support from our community as well as the slings and arrows. I just got off the phone with a client of mine who is a retired psychologist–and who was a specialist in these matters prior to her retirement. She was extremely helpful. Thanks again.

      In peace,

  5. Larry Coble
    November 14, 2014 @ 1:12 pm

    Fred, So happy you have responded in such an open manner. You have made an honest accounting. Those that have ever had personal contact with you are aware of your openness and where your heart is. This is indeed an amazing thing to witness. Soar my friend, soar.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 4:16 pm

      Hey, Larry! Thanks so much for this. Our lunches were special, we’ll have to do it again.

      In peace,

  6. Jane Quint
    November 14, 2014 @ 2:25 pm

    Fred, I thought I had posted a comment but I don’t see it here. I am overwhelmed by your honesty and courage. It was actually healing to see your response to what has happened. I am very grateful for you.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 4:15 pm

      Hey, Jane! Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’m so grateful for your support.

      In peace,

  7. Sebastiano Taeggi
    November 14, 2014 @ 2:33 pm

    This whole story shows once again what immense power is hidden in the principles of AA which I, like you, need to practice in my life in all circumstances, no matter what.

    Your healing is everybody’s healing, Fred.
    You’re doing the right thing.

    A big hug and full support from a fellow AAer.

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 4:14 pm

      Thank you, Sebastiano. This is all part of a Larger Thing.

      In peace,


  8. Kathleen
    November 14, 2014 @ 2:46 pm


    I so admire your courage and honesty. I’m sorry you are having to go through this ordeal. We all have pasts, and those who judge you may not be looking at themselves too carefully. To me this is not news, other than the details, based on what you’ve already shared in your books, writings, and videos. You are who you are here and now, and that is what matters. All this only increases my admiration and respect for you. You are a great example of willingness to face “what is.” Nevertheless, I am sorry for the pain this has caused you and Becky and others, and I keep you in my thoughts for comfort and healing.

    All love,


    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 4:13 pm

      Thank you so very much, Kathleen. Having your confidence, and Chris’, is really quite a balm.


  9. Chris Barrett
    November 14, 2014 @ 7:06 pm

    Hi Fred

    You are a breath of fresh air Fred. Im sure you will weather this storm, just wanted to lend my support and let you know I really appreciate your words. Thanks

    Chris Barrett

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 7:11 pm

      Thank you, Chris! I am humbled by the support our community is offering.

      In peace anyway,

  10. Patti
    November 14, 2014 @ 7:39 pm

    Dearest Fred,

    I’m sure that was neither easy nor particularly comfortable but I admire your (unit’s) integrity and honesty. I’m someone who recently had to make some very difficult amends and have more to go. I haven’t yet had them bite me in the ass, as it were, but you’ve set an example of how to handle our less-than-perfect pasts with grace. No matter in what “when” they arise. Thank you for that. I’ve decided to schedule a session with you as I’ve admired your work for awhile and if this unit can wake up, I trust your guidance completely to get me there. More from me soon and warm wishes to you, Betsy, and your furry ones tonight. With gratitude, Patti

    • Fred Davis
      November 14, 2014 @ 7:48 pm

      Thank you, Patti! I look forward to meeting you. Betsy is here reading your comment!

      In peace anyway,

  11. georgette cressend
    November 14, 2014 @ 11:34 pm

    Hi Fred,
    “Ditto” to all the dearness that has been spoken here in support of you and Betsy.
    My love, my heart-felt gratitude and my deepest knowing that all is well, ride high upon this chariot of fire that burns away what’s left of all this.
    You are LIVING what you teach, walking the walk and embracing all things equally … a mighty torch being passed on to all of us! Thank you.
    We walk with you side-by-side … until the stretch limo arrives!!! Then we all ride side-by-side.
    i love you with all my heart,

  12. Fred Davis
    November 15, 2014 @ 12:05 am

    Oh, Georgette. I love you with all my heart. Thank you so much for this. I’ll forward it to Betsy so that she sees it in the morning.

    In peace anyway,

  13. Kerry
    November 15, 2014 @ 12:31 am

    Seems to me that you have just untied the last rope and set yourself completely free. None of us is more than a thought away from an act that could radically change our lives.

    I used to work for the juvenile court and have always felt that the registry has been used inappropriately and has harmed more than it has helped. It is utterly indiscriminate. Whenever “justice” leaves no discretion to those judging, it no longer serves its’ purpose.

    I think you will be fine. I think the people who matter will continue support you. The truth is always the best thing, even when it requires walking through fire.

    Your loving presence shines. The past is just a story. Thank you for sharing your story and for sharing your light .

    • Fred Davis
      November 15, 2014 @ 12:35 am

      Thank you so much, Kerry. I really appreciate your comments and your beautiful sentiment.

      In peace anyway,

  14. Robbin Hayman
    November 15, 2014 @ 5:48 pm

    That was then. This is now. That’s what unconscious awakeness is capable of. Serving the unit/self in an illusion of seperateness. So who’s not guilty of that? We’re all AS’es. Anonymous Selfaholics, until we’re not, as someone once said. You are life’s bow that has been drawn to breaking point, so this message can reach as far and deep as possible. That’s how it cuts through the BS. No way I’m letting this out of my sight 🙂
    Betsy you’re a great woman/human being. Thanks for your support. Kerry. Well said.
    Talk to you soon Fred. You have my respect.

    • Fred Davis
      November 15, 2014 @ 7:14 pm

      Robbin, this is a wonderful comment, very wise and open. Thank you so much for your support and friendship. Give my best to Sussie!
      All love,

  15. Patrick Dorsey
    November 15, 2014 @ 6:59 pm

    Dear Fred,

    I think you have in your honesty demonstrated some very powerful non-dual truths and I am impressed by the grace and humility with which you have so.

    I think there are many messages to learn from your story, not the least of which is, is the person we took ourselves to be in the so called past the person we are today?

    If any one of us really takes this non dual stuff seriously I think we better look and see how it actually plays out in our everyday actions.

    You sir, imho, have shown yourself to be someone who can not only talk the talk but can walk the walk–and this was no cake walk, I might add.

    Blessings to you dear Fred, thank you for your honesty and humility in sharing your powerful story. This is a deep teaching with many lessons for all of us.

    • Fred Davis
      November 15, 2014 @ 7:12 pm

      Blessing to you Patrick! There’s a lot of wisdom in what you say.

      In peace anyway,

  16. Sussie
    November 16, 2014 @ 9:39 am

    Fred. Thank you for so honestly sharing the stories of your life, and all the pain you and others have been through. I fully agree with Robbin, and send you and Betsy my love. See you.

    • Fred Davis
      November 16, 2014 @ 10:42 am

      Thank you so much, Sussie. I greatly appreciate your thoughts and support. I’ll share them with Betsy this evening.

      In peace anyway,

  17. Leslie
    November 16, 2014 @ 10:50 am

    Thank you Fred…and thank you Patrick for re-posting. Honesty is the basis for all in this Here. Your depth, courage and integrity shine and this heart rejoices. There are ‘white elephants’ in many a room that many will simply not acknowledge. And some (sometimes solely) carry the weight of that on their shoulders because of that. In your honesty you have just lifted a significant weight…perhaps for many…but most especially for you. Perhaps others will be so inspired.

    • Fred Davis
      November 16, 2014 @ 10:59 am

      Thank you so much, Leslie. Your letter is more important to me that you can know.

      In peace anyway,

      • Leslie
        November 17, 2014 @ 10:38 pm

        Blessings Fred…Your post generated a release…a flood… of many tears….which have, to this day, been unable to be shed. Thanking you. -Leslie

        • Fred Davis
          November 17, 2014 @ 10:40 pm

          Thank you, Leslie. I’ve very pleased that some of this awfulness can be turned to goodness.


    • Fred Davis
      November 16, 2014 @ 1:49 pm

      Hey, Leslie! It’s been a long weekend, and I do so appreciate your support.



  18. Rick Archer
    November 16, 2014 @ 11:46 am

    Hi Fred,

    I did things as a crazy, mixed-up teenager that I still cringe over daily. I send feelings of apology to the people I hurt, and if I could contact them more concretely, I would. I can’t blame you for not addressing this stuff publicly from the outset, although in retrospect, and knowing it was bound to come out, you may be feeling you should have.

    I’m getting feedback from folks more judgmental than most of those who posted above, and I’m referring them to this page. A few of those don’t hold decades-old transgressions against you, but do feel you charge too much. But I guess that’s between you and those able or unable (willing or unwilling) to pay.

    “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” – JC



  19. Fred Davis
    November 16, 2014 @ 1:27 pm

    Thank you, Rick. I so appreciate your comment, and your willingness to comment. I am getting my share of quite hateful email, curses and threats, trust me on that. It is what it is, and these units do what they do until they don’t.

    As I saw it, and still it, accepting responsibility, offering apologies, and making oneself available to provide either clarity or closure to the victims, is all one can do in the aftermath of any crime. You can’t un-ring a bell, and in a case like this there is no such thing as restitution. My life is an ongoing amend to those girls.

    And by way of punishment, trust me on this, it is harsher than anyone who is not on that registry could imagine. I am still paying for those actions decades later, in a large and public way, and it ever won’t stop unless it does. My wife is also paying a fierce price for loving whom she loves, and she is entirely innocent. It’s amazing to me that no one seems to care how this affects her. I care.

    At some point, it seems, we have to let the past go, or we cannot move on. Like it or not, life must be lived. I can’t just step off that train here, and I will abandon my practice when I am abandoned, and not before.

    I never made a decision to become a spiritual teacher. It happened. People often confuse sages with saints. Very few sages are actually saints, and not all saints are sages. Oneness chooses the vessel that it uses to shine through. The vessel then shines. It’s not doing the shining, the shining is happening through it.

    This unit was chosen. It did not “deserve” it, it did not earn it. I realize that it’s not a good enough vessel for much of the public, but I also notice that it was, and still is, good enough for Oneness. It’s not my job to point out Oneness’ apparent mistakes, and I don’t see it being my business to point out the flaws in the vessel, but to point to the light instead. That’s what I do.

    Since this public disaster began, this unit has been used to wake up two more people, and to bring greater clarity to two others. However dim the vessel, the light still shines brightly. I will know when what I do is no longer needed; they will cease of their own accord, and that will be that. As it stands, I’ve gotten three fresh bookings in the very midst of this mess, and I’ve had a net gain in both site and YouTube subscribers. Not everyone thinks Awakeness is in error, and clearly my work is not yet done.

    I charge what I charge. What I charge, as you say, is between me and my paying clients. There’s no need for me to defend it, but I find that I want to explain it. Several months back I had a female client who bought a package tell me, “I’m 73 years old, and this is the best money I’ve ever spent.” That’s not uncommon, but I loved the way this woman said it, taking care in her statement to make sure that I fully took in the impact of her statement. It was a very moving moment.

    I told you in our interview that this work is exhausting. It is. I know people some think that it “shouldn’t be,” but it is anyway. There is only What Is, there is no “should” or “shouldn’t.” I cannot talk to everyone, I can’t even talk to great numbers any longer. After discussing it with Betsy, at the first of August I cut back my schedule, because in July a prominent member of our community, a physician, flew to Columbia to spend a few days with me. She couldn’t believe what was going on here.

    At one point I had her–a client–in my living room. I had woken her up the day before, and we were in clarity session all that next day. I took “breaks” from that in order to do drink a Red Bull and take Skype calls from other clients. Meanwhile, my inbox was causing my phone to ring throughout the day. I would answer them that night, after the doctor had gone to her hotel room, and I had some “free time.” Having witnessed the chaos, she told me, in no uncertain terms. “You can’t go on like this. You’ll burn out, you’ll kill yourself, you have to cut back, you have to rest more.” I had been on full throttle for three years.

    There is no end of people who want to wake up. I simply can’t talk to everyone who wants to talk to me. I was poor as a rat for years, and I understand that this is not agreeable for those who can’t afford it. I get it. That’s why so much of what I do is free. Regardless, all of my time is directed toward this teaching, and I still have to make a living. I charge less than my accountant charges me–that seems like a fair benchmark. If I get to the point where I can talk to fewer people, or the bar is not high enough to limit inquiries, then everyone may expect that rate to go up, and I will not apologize for my rates then, just as I do not apologize for them now.

    Oh, one more thing. A client of mine sent me something saying that because I had mentioned my teacher’s names in this post that I was somehow implying that they “thought it was okay.” Bullshit. They were my teachers. I didn’t hide anything from them; that’s all I was saying. None of them approved of or diminished the gravitas of my behavior–or my situation as a spiritual adherent who was beginning to become well known as a teacher. They did what authentic spiritual teachers do: they met What Is as What Is, in the full recognition that What Is lies beyond their opinions of What Is. You work with what you have, and that’s precisely what they did.

    I am just like my detractors in one way. I, too, can see that this unit is deeply flawed. That’s hardly news to anyone who knows me. I would prefer a neater story to work with, but I don’t have that. I have This. I have no sense whatsoever that I “should” have announced all of my sins before offering to help people walk through the Gateless Gate. There is no “what isn’t.” Had I been foolish enough to try to placate my detractors before they became my detractors, then in all likelihood there would be no practice here for us to talk about, no practice for my detractors to gossip about.

    Nor do I think this public whipping should not have happened. It is the present arising, and it’s not a mistake. And like every other arising, this present arising has come and will go. The only thing that doesn’t come and go is the truth my teaching points toward. That truth is unshakeable.

    My next post is going to be about working with karma–about the strange phenomena of “inheriting your own life in post-awakening.” I would have preferred to have inherited my brother’s good and gentle life, but I notice it was already taken. I got what I got, and I’m not either proud, or ashamed of who or what I am. It’s all beyond my opinions. If I was good enough for God, then that’s good enough for me. I invite all of you to join me for that discussion.

    Thank you again for taking this brave public stance.

    In love, respect and gratitude,


  20. Rita Anderson
    November 16, 2014 @ 2:31 pm

    Dear Fred, I am moved by your writings and have deep appreciation for your willingness to be so directly open and honest. I struggled greatly as a child and as a teenager, and found myself rebelling and acting in ways which caused me to feel a lot of shame over the course of my life. None of it as bad as you might think but for me it nailed the belief of my inadequacy fiercely in my heart. Especially too as I still live in the hometown I was raised, I would keep the past alive by my own painful thinking. I do feel gratitude for these experiences, while not entirely free from them, I feel they have deepened my ability to be forgiving and loving to others. If not caught in my own projection (which I humbly admit I still get caught) I really try to see what it is to walk in that other person’s shoes. I don’t know what it is to have lived what they lived.
    It takes a lot of courage to be so honest and transparent, like you are doing here, and that feels so good to me! Who among us have not been raised and surrounded by unconscious and wounded people? How else can we form ourselves if we know no other way? My hearts desire is to stop the cycle of judgment and separation caused by these beliefs. I truly feel your courageous writings of “ownership” extremely important, helpful and healing. I am grateful. Perhaps if the folks who are in prisons could absolve themselves and then forgive themselves, maybe they could start anew and use their life as material to help others. Just as you are Fred. And one more thing, our past is not who we are now, unless we make it so….I am glad for you.

    • Fred Davis
      November 16, 2014 @ 2:41 pm

      Thank you so much, Rita. This sure sounds to me like Conscious Awakeness speaking here.

      I tried to resist What Is for most of my life. I tried it with drugs, sex, gambling, drinking, thinking–you name it. Alas, I found that I could not win at that, nor could I change the past. My sense has always been that a willingness to change the impact of my past, to recycle my garbage into compost to grow better lives than the one I lived, then that is what I can offer to to the future in the only time there actually is–today.



  21. Bob Rusling
    November 16, 2014 @ 5:12 pm

    Dear Fred,

    Most of what I have to say has already been said by others. I would just add that for me personally, your example of courageously facing up fully to the consequences of your past actions and making what amends you can is a lesson that will stick with me for along time, and is one that I suspect will be very beneficial for a lot of us. It seems like a sort of correlate to the principle of “Telling the truth to ourselves” that animates your approach to the Awakening and Clarity sessions.
    Perfect spiritual teachers, if such exist anywhere, are no doubt of great help to their perfect students. Speaking as a flawed student, such a clear example of extricating oneself from one’s prior negativity while taking full responsibility for it is a teaching that I can practically apply to my own relative life and confused karmic patterns.
    Thank you for your teaching, both intended and unintended!
    Best wishes to you and Betsy! Please take care of yourselves during this stressful time!



    • Fred Davis
      November 16, 2014 @ 5:33 pm

      Hi, Bob! It’s great to hear from you! Just before this comment, Betsy and I were talking about how, somehow, at the end of the day, this will all be made fruitful. As she said, “This apparent tragedy is the only reason you woke up.” And she’s right.

      What I have noticed is that often in life the worst thing in your life can become transmuted into the best thing. Prior to this case, the worst thing in my life had been my alcoholism. Yet had it not been for that, I would not have ever been forced to tell myself the truth about many things. I am who I am today because of that. Thousands of lives have been positively affected because I once was a insane drunk, a creep, and a homeless wretch living in a city park. The difference between a curse and a blessing is often timing.

      I can’t yet see how this uproar will be a blessing to this unit, and it may never be. Guess what? It’s not about this unit. It’s about the Whole. And if this wasn’t good in the long run for the Whole, it simply wouldn’t be.


  22. Elaine Gries
    November 17, 2014 @ 11:44 am

    It is ridiculous for someone to bring up something that happened so many years ago when you obviously are leading an upright life for many years. I am so sorry. You helped me a lot a while back and are helping many others in the present. These accusers have the problem, not you.

    • Fred Davis
      November 17, 2014 @ 11:52 am

      Hello, Elaine! Thanks so much for writing, and for your support. In some eyes, a caterpillar can never become a butterfly. Fortunately, not everyone agrees with that point of view. 🙂

      In gratitude,

  23. Georgi (@GeorginaYael)
    November 17, 2014 @ 12:50 pm

    Hello Fred,

    I am one of those that went into a mini shock from the nonduality community. I am glad I read this post, as it brings alive the human factor and gives insight into a process of self-realization in which we are all entangled and interdependent.

    I want to share with you a healing movement from this corner of nonduality.

    “The opposite of guilt is condemnation. Innocence has no opposite.”

    This has been so important to me in healing and finding freedom within abuse. Nothing can add to or take away from our inherent innocence. The living energy of inherent innocence is the healing factor to liberate the spin between guilt and condemnation. Stand for that. Realize it.

    We are all guilty, and out of that guilt we condemn the “other”. Abuse exists. Suffering exists among us. This is where much of the nonduality movement stalls on its arousal into life and manifestation through what must be apprehended as inter being or inter dependency. Awakening does not remove the process of healing and we are all together in that.

    I wish you mercy in your process together with your wife and hope it will be of service to the whole.

    • Fred Davis
      November 17, 2014 @ 12:56 pm

      Beautiful, Georgi. Thank you SO much!


  24. Jacklyn Flynn
    November 17, 2014 @ 4:31 pm

    Dear Fred,
    A unique perspective to lend. As a young girl, I was on the receiving end of the behavior you describe by two adult males in my family. They, and the entire family, denies that it ever happened. As a result, I am a woman near your age, left with an as yet unhealed wound in my soul. Surprisingly, I felt nothing but compassion for you as your “story” unfolded over the past few days. If the men in my family had been willing to take responsibility for the damage they caused and been even only able to say, “I am sorry,” both I and my extended and estranged family might have had a shot at the love and compassion I feel towards you, a relative stranger.The upside to your “train wreck” is that everyone has been set free from the prison of shame. There is no more secret. The wounds can heal in the light of fresh air. I hope that all involved find peace. Best regards, Jacklyn Flynn

    • Fred Davis
      November 17, 2014 @ 5:18 pm

      Thank you, Jacklyn. I so appreciate this note, and this perspective. Many will.


  25. Eye Ami
    November 17, 2014 @ 8:13 pm

    This could happen to anyone who truly is not a Saint, and even those whom have been labeled as Saints. I fully resonate with having a past loaded with many indiscretions which caused damage to others, but mostly to myself. Thank GOD for forgiveness, as this, for me, despite for immense Grace, is the only thing which can genuinely cleanse me of the guilt and shame associated with some of that past behavior. And I’m not sure if those memories entirely ever go away? I find that trusting in the Multiverse helps, or as a good friend of mine used to often say, ‘It’s the Self, calling the Self, back to the Self.’ Best of everything to you always, Brother Fred. Namaste.

    • Fred Davis
      November 17, 2014 @ 8:27 pm

      Thank you so much for this beautiful comment. I just shared it with Betsy. It warmed our hearts and lifted our spirits.


  26. Alfred Koegler
    November 17, 2014 @ 9:36 pm

    Dear Fred,
    I deeply appreciate your honesty regarding your ‘past’. I hold no judgments against you and still consider you a great teacher—The only one out of all the great teachers I’ve had contact with who has really helped me see my true nature. I feel the money I spent with you was well worth it in my opinion. Every penny of it. I certainly hope that people will not judge your past and that you will be able to continue helping people to see their true nature for a long time to come.
    Namaste, Alfred

    • Fred Davis
      November 17, 2014 @ 9:45 pm

      You are an angel, Alfred. I never saw a more determined seeker, and it’s been my delight to help you wake up. Thank you so much for this. Betsy and I both send you love and blessings.


  27. James Quinn
    November 21, 2014 @ 5:19 pm

    Hello Fred. My best wishes to you as always. You were the second person I talked to (at least in this life…-:) about nonduality. As you may recall, I did an awakening session with you and three clarity sessions this past summer.

    I don’t recall when I first knew about this part of your past, but I did know about it during the time I worked with you. Although I did not know the details, my intuition told me that it was something from the distant past, and that you are beautiful and honorable human being.

    I’m very glad that I trusted my intuition.

    Blessings and love,

    • Fred Davis
      November 21, 2014 @ 7:05 pm

      Thank you, Jim! I’m so grateful for your support and understanding.

      A number of my clients knew about my history, they just didn’t choose to post it on Facebook. This wasn’t something I was hiding–it’s not something one can hide. I said as much as I could say in my books, posts, and videos without endangering anyone.

      I mean look at what’s happening right now: I’ve got people threatening my family’s life and livelihood, and some people think I should have stood up and announced this? Please.

      All love,

  28. Adrian
    November 23, 2014 @ 5:44 am

    Love your work Fred You have pointed me in the right direction so many times Thank you Keep on keeping on Share the light
    In love

    • Fred Davis
      November 23, 2014 @ 9:42 am

      Thank you, Adrian!

      All love,

  29. Barb F.
    November 23, 2014 @ 4:47 pm

    Good Grief!
    I’ve been busy with work, and don’t belong to Facebook, so this all is coming to me as a complete surprise today.
    I want to say what a to-do over nothing, but I know it wasn’t over nothing.
    BUT it is over the DEAD PAST.
    Fredness, you are NOW a shining example who has HELPED a ton of folks…myself included….see reality as it really is…please continue…the world and humanity needs you.
    I know I did things years ago, that I now blush to think about.
    Those of you that are have been perfect, congrats!
    If you are so perfect, where is your compassion and understanding for a 17 year old boy who made mistakes and then made amends?
    The more I write, the more ticked off I get about your unfair treatment, Fred, so I will just end by saying,
    I love you alot & please continue your wonderful work.
    Blessings to you and Betsy, Barb

    • Fred Davis
      November 23, 2014 @ 4:55 pm

      Thank you so much, Barb. This means a great deal, particularly coming from someone I love so much. Thank you for everything. Betsy just read your comment, and it pleased her to no end. It’s been a hard day for her, so I thank you for this ray of sunshine.

      Love from both of us,

      Fred & Betsy

  30. blake
    November 27, 2014 @ 11:49 am

    Wow! I am amazed. This has thrown me and I realize that it somehow anchors your teaching even deeper. I don’t know who those people are who can’t look back and see terrible things they have done in ignorance. My life is full of these missteps, some of them truly rock-bottom, so that I would find it very hard to put another human being in a different and lower class than myself no matter what they have done. Ignorance is ignorance and it seems to follow most of us. I wish I could only ascribe it to my teen years but it has followed me throughout my life and I am not sure that too many others are free of this either. Thank you for teaching, and posting. You remind me of how dear and inspirational some AAers have been to me.

    • Fred Davis
      November 27, 2014 @ 11:51 am

      Wow, thank you, Blake. This is a nice gift for this day of thanks-giving.

      All love,

  31. Becky Coley
    January 30, 2015 @ 7:12 pm

    I just read about this today and while initially was horrified and then, when I found out the facts, thought: “He should have been a rock star.” Led Zeppelin was known for debauchery with very young teenage girls and, as far as I know, have never been classified as sex offenders!
    We all have feet of clay. At the end of the day, it’s what you do with the rest of it that counts. I am blessed to be a post-menopausal woman and, as such, lack the hormonal juices that would drive me to do this. Probably, you – and others for sure – have flogged yourself enough for this transgression.

    • Fred Davis
      January 30, 2015 @ 7:15 pm

      Thank you for sharing, Becky. There has been plenty of flogging, both private and public, but for some it is never enough.

  32. John Christian
    November 12, 2016 @ 11:18 am

    Fred. I just got your latest on kindle. I have been at this game a long time, since 75 and TM….and on and on. In 93 a friend went to sit with Papaji and I began to investigate a bit. In 2000 I was introduced to a writer who got me almost there I feel. For some reason I have struggled. Been to India and have done most all of it. Although I guess I had heard of you it didn’t hit until yesterday.
    Maybe this one can get me there. Just read your past history and I must say i have also had some past stuff etc..and I’m not sure it even matters except on a day to day level where I’m sure it plays out. I feel that if anything your having to face all shadows will only help me. I’ll read your book and maybe try to work with you……John Christian

    • Fred Davis
      November 12, 2016 @ 11:22 am

      These character/units come as they are, don’t they? I wish you luck with Awaken Now. I worked with a guy last week who woke up from reading it – in a large way. It takes what it takes until it takes. Come to satsang. It’s relatively cheap, and is a great place to steep in Truth for two hours.

  33. Megan
    August 12, 2017 @ 3:45 pm

    If it only takes everything, and since you already went first, thank you for breaking the ice for us, then we will give it all. The teaching is amazing, the insights and clarity/clearing come as fast as I can process them, but I can pause, fully ingest the new understanding and move forward when I am ready to tackle the next lie. The chance to myob is always presented and seldom taken, I confess my nosey parkerness here. Add that one to the list of things to notice and see through. Much gratitude and love, Megan

    • Fred Davis
      August 12, 2017 @ 4:43 pm

      Thank you, Megan. This means a lot to me, especially here. ♥

  34. Lacy
    January 9, 2018 @ 8:49 am

    Totally didn’t see this one coming. That being said…
    Awareness (albeit unconscious back then) always was. And always IS.
    I am thankful for the teaching and for your presence. I had a knock-your-socks-off spiritual experience/awakening while watching one of your Youtube meditation videos. The teaching is direct and powerful. It has changed my life and I am forever grateful.
    When I was 19 and very much unconscious awareness, I discouraged my then live-in boyfriend from having a relationship with his daughter. Purely for selfish reasons. I didn’t want to share him. For three years, he never saw or spoke to her because of me. He later died of a drug overdose. Can’t ever get those years back and now the guy is dead. I beat myself up for YEARS over this. But recently came to realize – I may never understand why these things happened the way they did. They just happened. Awareness always was and always IS.
    Much love to you – my reflection 🙂

    • Fred Davis
      January 9, 2018 @ 9:16 am

      Thank you, Lacy. I’m grateful for your understanding. Life unfolds as it does. We make amends where possible, and offer them in our hearts wherever they are not. ♥

  35. Ian
    July 7, 2018 @ 11:05 pm

    Dear Fred, Just stumbled upon this. And upon your videos prior to this. Did spot one or two very negative comments while searching for those, which caused a minor reticence. And I noticed a certain craziness in your approach, and you mentioned a drunken past… But WOW you have something so special right there for all to see, it’s so beautiful and funny and I’m sure it’s going to dissolve this unit from the inside very soon. For what it’s worth, I think of how people in Thailand never mention the bit about how the Buddha walked out on his wife and son (almost unforgiveable in Thai culture). And I think of the great Milarepa and his murderous past. Would Jesus reject anyone for their past? While I think Awakeness has no problem here, I only hope you and your wife the very best. Beautiful post by the way.

  36. On Pedophilia and Oneness - The Ostrich and the Elephant
    April 27, 2019 @ 10:57 pm

    […] As part of the 12-step program in AA, one of the steps is that you need to connect with and apologise to all the people you have wronged in your life. Fred did this, and obviously one of these things was writing to his nieces to apologise for his actions. He offered to talk to them too, if they wanted to. Four years later, a couple of them did, and they recorded the conversation and gave it to the police. Despite this being some 30 years in the past, the state where Fred lived, South Carolina, had no statute of limitations for sexual offences, so he was brought before a judge and convicted of the crimes. The judge took into account his recovery from alcoholism and the good work he was doing being a guide for others to do the same, and sentenced him to weekend incarceration for a period of 90 days in jail, registration as a sex offender, and some other strict provisions for five years. Some may say this was too lenient, but I’ll let others be the judge of that. Fred wrote a blog post about this back in 2014 when it all came out, which can be found here, and it is an interesting insight into the nature of what happened. I recommend reading it: […]

  37. anonymous
    August 3, 2019 @ 6:24 pm

    Fred, this post is a lifeline for me. I am going thru a reckoning right now for ugly acts I did toward someone 2 decades ago as an adolescent. I have buried it for years. The avoidance has poisoned me and gradually the guilt and buried anger/pain/sorrow/regret has alienated me from myself. I reached out to the person today to offer accountability and express my apology. It didn’t trigger the unburdening I had hoped for, it was an awkward conversation and the person says they don’t remember any harm from me. I am not sure if calling them was the right thing to do, but it took courage and I am glad I did it on some level. It was a vote against my ego, and a vote in favor of the person I wronged and in favor of the truth, come what may. Anyways, the honesty in this post is helpful for me right now.

    • Fred Davis
      August 3, 2019 @ 7:01 pm

      I’m happy that the person you contacted did not experience the trauma that many others do. I’m also happy for you. It’s the willingness that counts. It’s all you can do and thus it has to be enough. These units simply do what they do, but we can’t use that as a cop-out for the unit’s responsibility in the relative world. However, remain clear that none of this had anything to do with You, Awakeness.

    • anonona
      March 13, 2021 @ 1:25 pm

      This is the first post I am reading from you and I want to thank you for it. 7 years has passed when you wrote this, but I bet things turned out pretty well. They always do when you surrender.

      I have to work on that more, but this does give me a new path.

      I’ll read this again and then I’ll check your videos!

  38. anonona
    March 13, 2021 @ 4:55 pm

    I watched one of your video, from a random part of it. It was a video where you talk about the potential Parkinsons disease and it struck me. It was a complete answer for one of my current problem. Thank you again.

    In turn I want to give you a movie recommendation, because there is a important message about timeless beauty: Yesterday.

    You can find it on Netflix. Watched it today.

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